Kissing Techniques How to Give a Great French Kiss
Making-out, Frenching, smooching, and playing tonsil-hockey – the act of kissing has a thousand names. Whether we use it as an informal greeting or an intensely intimate romantic gesture, kissing is one of those innate human acts that seem to defy explanation. Its numerous purposes – a peck for good luck on a dice roll, air kisses to your BFF, lips locked to the ground after a rocky boat ride, and long, smoldering make-out sessions on the silver screen – have different meanings yet are all similar in nature. So what is it about puckering up that makes us love it so much?
The Origins of Kissing
While philematologists, the scientists who study smooching, aren’t quite sure how kissing started, the most likely theory is that it stems from the security we felt as infants while nursing or bottle feeding. Those early events form critical neutral pathways in a baby’s brain that allow us to associate kissing with positive emotions.
Another belief is that kissing comes from the act of primate mothers passing along chewed food to their toothless babies. This lip-to-lip contact not only represented survival, but an expression of love. Thank goodness the times of chewed-food sharing through kissing are over for humans. Now it is believed that kisses help transfer vital information, rather than just food bits. Kissing enables us to get close enough to a partner to assess essential characteristics about them, none of which we consciously process.
Our lips are the body’s most exposed erogenous zone. Our lips are uniquely everted, which means they purse outward and are packed with sensitive nerve endings. Kisses work their magic by setting off a whirlwind of neurotransmitters and hormones through our bodies that influence how we think and feel.
How Men and Women Perceive Kissing
Kissing is nature’s ultimate litmus test – paving the way toward people who may be our best genetic partners. Research conducted by Swiss biologist Claus Wedekind found that women are most attracted to the scents of men who carry a different genetic code for their immune system in a region of DNA known as the major histocompatibility complex or MHC. Kissing may be a delicate way for women to assess the immune compatibility of a mate.
Another study, conducted by the University of Albany, found significant differences in how men and women perceived the importance of kissing. Females placed more importance on kissing, and most would never have sex without kissing first. Men, on the other hand, would have sex without kissing beforehand, and would also bed a girl who wasn’t a good kisser. Men are also more likely to initiate French kissing. Scientists hypothesize that this is because saliva contains testosterone, which can increase libido.
Ok, so now that we know a few things about the science behind kissing, let’s get to the good stuff. You’re never too old for a little refresher course on how to improve the art form of kissing, especially how to French kiss. Ooh la la!
Freshen Up – Practice self-awareness before you pucker up and keep your breath fresh and lips soft and smooth. Products such as Kissaholic Aphrodisiac Infused Breath Mist can keep your breath fresh with a blast of spicy cinnamon, while the Screaming O KissOboo Tingly Lip Balm will give guys irresistible soft lips and the Kama Sutra Lip Fetish Cool Mint will give the ladies the perfect pout.
Work the Eyes – When you’re leaning in for a kiss, you can’t use your mouth, so speak with your eyes and make smoldering eye contact. Make sure to close them though for the actual kiss, because starting with an open-eyed kiss can be creepy. Temporary vision loss during a kiss may also intensify the way it feels, so wait to initiate more eye contact during the kiss until you are in the throes of passion.
Let It Control You – If you try to control the kiss, the moment can be lost and things may get awkward. Relax, breathe deeply through your nose and enjoy the moment.
Use Your Hands – You can enhance a kiss by using your hands. Place them gently on the sides of their face, shoulders or around their waist. You can also loosely tangle your fingers in their hair and pull them closer to you which can be a very passionate gesture. Keep your hands moving and exploring in a respectful and gentle manner during a long kiss to enhance the romantic feeling.
Mind Your Tongue – During tongue kissing otherwise known as French kissing, tongues can either be your best friend or worst enemy. Remember it’s a kiss, not a facial wash so try to control your saliva so you don’t create a river of slobber down your chin.
To initiate a French kiss, slightly tilt your head so you don’t bump noses, open your lips just enough to allow your tongue to softly lick your partner’s lips and then enter their mouth slightly and gently with light pressure. Don’t go too deep to start and gentle is a keyword here. Going in hard and fast is a no-no. If they reciprocate with their tongue, you’re in business and the French kiss is on!
Move your tongue in and out of their mouth with slow and rhythmic movements. Keep your tongue in motion, don’t just give them a limp tongue and leave it in their mouth. That’s a major moment killer. Keep it playful while your tongues take turns touching and entering each other’s mouths. Mix it up by increasing the intensity, pressure, speed and depth once you get a feel for their comfort level, kissing style and, of course, when things start to heat up.
Have Fun –When that luscious kiss is over, top it off by looking them in the eye and giving them a sexy smile that will definitely leave them wanting more.
Kisses get better with practice (just like sex), so kiss your lover often. The best part is actually getting better at it together. Need some inspiration? You and your partner are in for a great kissing session when you initiate it and liven it up by using some sexy treats, such as a the Bijoux Indiscrets Bi double-sided lollipop in Strawberry & Sparkling Wine flavor. For more exciting products to intensify a kiss, please visit Kissing Enhancers on VibeWines.com.
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