Intimacy Issues – How to Last Longer in Bed – The Male Orgasm and Premature Ejaculation

Intimacy Issues                                                  Volume One: Chapter Two

How to Last Longer in Bed – The Male Orgasm and Premature Ejaculation  

Intimacy Issues - How to Last Longer in Bed - The Male Orgasm and Premature Ejaculation

Intimacy Issues – How to Last Longer in Bed – The Male Orgasm and Premature Ejaculation

A biological imperative for the propagation of the species, human males have evolved to achieve orgasm with relative ease — prompting some men to want to learn how to last longer in bed. According to a recent report posted by Psychology Today, an average of 30% of males age 18 to 85 experience what is referred to as premature ejaculation. This means that they become so aroused during a sexual encounter that they climax quite quickly, sometimes even before penetration. This can present an awkward situation if their partner is still over at the starting line with a revving engine and no passenger — so to speak.     

Intimacy issues such as this, although common, tend to be omitted from everyday conversation due to the long lasting effects of shame and guilt placed upon sex by the Victorian Age. If premature ejaculation is a scenario that you relate to, you can see it as an opportunity to learn about yourself and to share these nuances with your partner rather than as a reason to withdraw in denial. PubMed.com reports that 85.1% of men experience climax during sexual activity, meaning that out of the nearly nine out of ten guys that reach cimax, three do so in a matter of time that both partners agree is too soon.   

OK Guys: Reality Check

Despite the constant barrage of ads aimed at men experiencing ED (Erectile Dysfunction), the most common of intimacy issues among guys may actually be PE (Premature Ejaculation). If you are among the 30% of the male population who experiences this and you want to learn how to last longer in bed, there are some fairly simple things you can try. The fact that orgasm is reached within the first minute or two of sex and sometimes even before intercourse may be directly linked to your biology and to how you were educated about sex.

Exercise Empowers Improvement

The 4,000 nerve endings in the tip of the penis are extremely sensitive, and when you are not in touch with how they react to being stimulated — you have little control over the ensuing reaction. One of the best ways to understand your unique sexual rhythms is through masturbation. Knowing your body will help you understand the physical sensations that occur just before you are about to climax. This transition can happen quickly, so the more you experience it — the more attuned to it you will be.

Train a Specific Muscle

You can learn to prolong orgasm once you are near the point of no return by using your PC (pubococcygeus) muscle. This is the muscle you clench when you are stopping yourself from urinating. This muscle can be strengthened through deliberate yet gradual exercises known as Kegels for men, which are performed by clenching and holding this muscle for three to five seconds, rest for a few seconds and repeat. Start with just 10 reps a day and work your way up to 50 reps a day over a period of about a month. 

Regulate Your Breathing

When you are having sex and you want to last longer, try slowing down your rhythm, breathing deeply and using your PC muscle to hold back your orgasm until you are ready. This is known as the “cooling off” technique and it should be accompanied by communicating to your partner that you are about to climax and you are trying to hold it off for mutual benefit. Communication is very important and they will surely appreciate it, and should be understanding if you need to stop completely for a minute. You can also use male accessories known as performance rings that are designed to help maintain stamina and increase the intensity of orgasm. A male ring used in conjunction with a trained PC muscle can prolong a sexual experience while enhancing the intensity of pleasure.

How to Last Longer in Bed by Cooling Down

Another media-driven misconception is that sex goes from “hi how are you” to penetration in mere seconds. Believe it or not, there is a transitional prelude to most sexual situations known as foreplay. This is where you and your partner initiate contact through touching and kissing that leads to heavy petting and gradually builds up to fully committed intercourse. Since you have to learn to slow down and cool off during penetration in order to last longer, you can treat the foreplay stage as a practice run by moderating the intensity of kissing and touching from intense to slow and easy. Ease into sex by sharing a glass of tantalizing wine with your partner and perhaps by giving them a relaxing massage to start things off.    

Replacing Intimacy Issues with Fun Solutions

While learning new ways to control premature ejaculation, it is entirely possible to consistently satisfy your partner. If your trip to the pleasure pinnacle is short and sweet, you can help your partner get there as well by pleasing them orally and employing the wonders of a vibrating adult accessory. An open conduit of communication can lead the two of you into experimenting with adult toys designed to be enjoyed simultaneously such as vibrating couple’s rings. Your partner’s pleasure does not always have to occur in unison with your own, and it is essential that you accept that premature ejaculation is not uncommon and that you are not abnormal. The sooner you do so, you and your partner can embark on a fulfilling journey of discovering and experiencing pleasure by incorporating alternative means.  

Vibe Wines™ provides helpful information about relationships, sex and adult pleasure products that help people manage intimacy issues such as how to last longer in bed by understanding the male orgasm.

Sources:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/all-about-sex/201005/premature-ejaculation-the-two-causes-mens-1-sex-problem  

http://www.everydayhealth.com/sexual-health-pictures/dr-laura-berman-male-orgasm-facts.aspx

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/25131299

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