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“Couples who laugh together last together.” Dr. John Gottman
Laughter can be crucial to the success of romance, playing an important role during the attraction, courtship and commitment phases of healthy relationships. Plus, tension-easing instances of humor can help couples form deep interpersonal bonds and overcome everyday obstacles like monotony, stress, tension and miscommunication.
“Sex without love is as hollow and ridiculous as love without sex.” — Hunter S. Thompson
In an age when committed relationships are threatened by diminishing intimacy, people are exploring ideas on how to take the “less” out of a sexless marriage. Rather than cut and run when sex and marriage become difficult, many are choosing to dig in deep, to hold their ground and discover exciting ways of revitalizing the most important relationship of their lives. Interpersonal dynamics such as inadequate communication, lack of physical touch, digital distractions and repetitive routines are common causes of sexual infrequency in marriage.
This common situation occurs when a minor rift between spouses widens into a canyon and then deepens into a chasm. The mystery lies not in the fact that there has been a breach, but what can be done about it before it is too late. Addressing a sexless marriage means accepting the fact that these “gaps” that happen between partners do not open up overnight, and reconnecting requires time and effort. The good news is that there are ways and means of revitalizing marital intimacy that are uplifting, cathartic and downright delightful.
Intimacy Issues Volume One: Chapter Four
The Female Orgasm: Dynamics of Assisting Her to Climax
The female orgasm is generally considered by those who experience it to be the pinnacle of ecstasy, an all encapsulating zenith that immerses her in pleasure so profound — it borders on something out of this world. Although this realm is readily available to most women, gaining access can be somewhat of a mystery. Unlike men, women experience pleasure in a much more complicated matrix of pacing, aesthetics and multiplicity — meaning it is a gradual journey unfit for the back seat of a car, yet upon arrival the greeting party can come around again and again. Put in even simpler terms — you have to be patient, attentive and considerate but once you assist her in climaxing, you can get her back there with enduring frequency.
Intimacy Issues Volume One: Chapter Two
How to Last Longer in Bed – The Male Orgasm and Premature Ejaculation
A biological imperative for the propagation of the species, human males have evolved to achieve orgasm with relative ease — prompting some men to want to learn how to last longer in bed. According to a recent report posted by Psychology Today, an average of 30% of males age 18 to 85 experience what is referred to as premature ejaculation. This means that they become so aroused during a sexual encounter that they climax quite quickly, sometimes even before penetration. This can present an awkward situation if their partner is still over at the starting line with a revving engine and no passenger — so to speak.
Intimacy issues such as this, although common, tend to be omitted from everyday conversation due to the long lasting effects of shame and guilt placed upon sex by the Victorian Age. If premature ejaculation is a scenario that you relate to, you can see it as an opportunity to learn about yourself and to share these nuances with your partner rather than as a reason to withdraw in denial. PubMed.com reports that 85.1% of men experience climax during sexual activity, meaning that out of the nearly nine out of ten guys that reach cimax, three do so in a matter of time that both partners agree is too soon.
Intimacy Issues Volume One: Chapter One
Individual Preference Should Not Limit Sexual Fulfillment
Women are empowered to revel in the ecstasy of orgasm, and to de-mystify the question of how to climax you have to accept that penetration is just one of many ways to fulfillment. It is a fact that many women do not reach climax during sex. According to the Journal of Sexual Medicine, the female orgasm is “less predictable, more varied” than that of men and occurs with less frequency. This recent study reveals that just 62.9% of women report achieving orgasm through “standard” sexual activity. You can read that as “vanilla” or “missionary style” or “just plain boring.”
Thankfully, western society’s long-standing embargo on the open discussion of human sexuality continues to lift, offering an abundance of avenues for women to choose when immersing themselves in pleasure. The door to solving a challenge with climaxing is opened by gaining a deeper understanding of your sexual biology. Women with intimacy issues can grow through self-examination, experimental masturbation and honest communication with their partners.