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The Female Orgasm: Dynamics of Assisting Her to Climax

Intimacy Issues                                           Volume One: Chapter Four

The Female Orgasm: Dynamics of Assisting Her to Climax

The Female Orgasm: Dynamics of Assisting Her to Climax

The Female Orgasm: Dynamics of Assisting Her to Climax

The female orgasm is generally considered by those who experience it to be the pinnacle of ecstasy, an all encapsulating zenith that immerses her in pleasure so profound — it borders on something out of this world. Although this realm is readily available to most women, gaining access can be somewhat of a mystery. Unlike men, women experience pleasure in a much more complicated matrix of pacing, aesthetics and multiplicity — meaning it is a gradual journey unfit for the back seat of a car, yet upon arrival the greeting party can come around again and again. Put in even simpler terms — you have to be patient, attentive and considerate but once you assist her in climaxing, you can get her back there with enduring frequency.  

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Intimacy Issues: Understanding Erectile Dysfunction

Intimacy Issues                                                  Volume One: Chapter 3

Understanding Erectile Dysfunction: The Effects of Age and Health-Related Behaviors  

Intimacy Issues: Understanding Erectile Dysfunction: The Effects of Age and Health-Related Behaviors

Intimacy Issues: Understanding Erectile Dysfunction: The Effects of Age and Health-Related Behaviors

There is a self-perpetuating conundrum among men known as erectile dysfunction (ED). It is rarely discussed in public, yet grappled with more than most who suffer from it would like to admit. Frequently when asked “how are you” — a guy struggling with problems in bed might mumble “oh .. well … you know — I had a bad night.” Often times this ambiguous answer indicates that a potentially exhilarating sexual episode was dampened or even shut down by the inability to develop or maintain an erection during sexual activity. In a recent posting, The University of Wisconsin Health Men’s Program reports that a man’s age is a direct correlation to what percentage of his peers are experiencing ED — 30% of men in their 30s, 40% of men in their 40s, 50% of men in their 50s and so on.

A Complicated Intimacy Issue

Age notwithstanding, there are a variety of other circumstances that can also lead to erectile dysfunction, some are minor and easy to identify and others are more involved. These include stress, lack of sleep, depression, anxiety, bad diet, frustration with work, lack of exercise, relationship struggles as well as diabetes, Parkinson’s disease, heart disease and more. One of the perpetuating factors of the problem is this: when a man “has a bad night,” the experience can be profoundly paralyzing from a psychological standpoint. So much in fact, that the next time a situation turns intimate, the memory of his previous failure to participate in sex can cause such a flood of anxiety that the dreaded scenario happens all over again. Poor communication between partners can lead to the woman mistaking the man’s trouble as an indication that he does not find her attractive and the spiral goes from there. Chronic ED can stem from an isolated incident such as this, but more often it is caused by a more complex physical condition and sometimes the two are intertwined.    

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Intimacy Issues – How to Last Longer in Bed – The Male Orgasm and Premature Ejaculation

Intimacy Issues                                                  Volume One: Chapter Two

How to Last Longer in Bed – The Male Orgasm and Premature Ejaculation  

Intimacy Issues - How to Last Longer in Bed - The Male Orgasm and Premature Ejaculation

Intimacy Issues – How to Last Longer in Bed – The Male Orgasm and Premature Ejaculation

A biological imperative for the propagation of the species, human males have evolved to achieve orgasm with relative ease — prompting some men to want to learn how to last longer in bed. According to a recent report posted by Psychology Today, an average of 30% of males age 18 to 85 experience what is referred to as premature ejaculation. This means that they become so aroused during a sexual encounter that they climax quite quickly, sometimes even before penetration. This can present an awkward situation if their partner is still over at the starting line with a revving engine and no passenger — so to speak.     

Intimacy issues such as this, although common, tend to be omitted from everyday conversation due to the long lasting effects of shame and guilt placed upon sex by the Victorian Age. If premature ejaculation is a scenario that you relate to, you can see it as an opportunity to learn about yourself and to share these nuances with your partner rather than as a reason to withdraw in denial. PubMed.com reports that 85.1% of men experience climax during sexual activity, meaning that out of the nearly nine out of ten guys that reach cimax, three do so in a matter of time that both partners agree is too soon.   

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Intimacy Issues: How to Climax When Intercourse is Not Enough

Intimacy Issues                                                         Volume One: Chapter One  

Individual Preference Should Not Limit Sexual Fulfillment  

Intimacy Issues: How to Climax When Intercourse Isn't Enough

Intimacy Issues: How to Climax When Intercourse Is Not Enough

Women are empowered to revel in the ecstasy of orgasm, and to de-mystify the question of how to climax you have to accept that penetration is just one of many ways to fulfillment. It is a fact that many women do not reach climax during sex. According to the Journal of Sexual Medicine, the female orgasm is “less predictable, more varied” than that of men and occurs with less frequency. This recent study reveals that just 62.9% of women report achieving orgasm through “standard” sexual activity. You can read that as “vanilla” or “missionary style” or “just plain boring.”

Thankfully, western society’s long-standing embargo on the open discussion of human sexuality continues to lift, offering an abundance of avenues for women to choose when immersing themselves in pleasure. The door to solving a challenge with climaxing is opened by gaining a deeper understanding of your sexual biology. Women with intimacy issues can grow through self-examination, experimental masturbation and honest communication with their partners.

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